How And When Do I Talk With My Kids About Alcohol And Drugs [Child Mind Institute]
The Child Mind Institute has created this exceptional video addressing how and when to talk to your kids about drugs and alcohol. Parents are generally pretty clear that the conversation must be had, but we can easily push it off out of fear, or because we really don’t have a clear script in mind and don’t know what to expect. Oftentimes, our parents did not have this conversation with us, and we have no role models in how to proceed. This video not only gives terrific talking points, but acknowledges how difficult it can be, and provides strategies for keeping the lines of communication open.
Some highlights from the (7 minute) video are:
In order to have tough conversations, we have to have a strong relationship. And that’s really where prevention begins around drugs and alcohol.
Talking about this early, as early as elementary school, is about sharing with kids that these things are out there and beginning to rehearse what they do about it BEFORE they encounter them.
If you wait until AFTER they first encounter these things, the main messages they will be getting about drugs and alcohol will come from their peers.
Prevention IS POSSIBLE
Start talking about drugs and alcohol EARLY
Be honest about the fact that our kids will encounter drugs and alcohol
Keep lines of communication open so kids can tell us when they are in trouble or need help
One mom in the video who has struggled with alcohol addiction said “The disease of addiction is really a disease of isolation. So it’s about meaningful connections in their life, and convincing and showing them that they truly matter.”
It’s important to be honest about your history - particularly if you have had addictions, because your children’s risk of becoming addicted is then higher than average.
Being truthful about your history, without sharing “stories from the front” of your own, and pivoting to the fact that you support them making safe and smart decision, can be very impactful.